Roses, a dinner at the Cook and the Corq, and continuously being shown countless amounts of love.
A relationship is a foundation that is built upon trust and love. A place that is found within two people who feel as though they could tell each other everything with no fear of judgment and no regret.
This is everything you did not receive.
As you go on with your life and your relationship, you think that everything is going to be great. Little did you know that you would find text messages on their phone, hidden phone calls, and the other woman receiving what was supposed to be your “I love you’s”, hugs, and kisses.
While it is disheartening to hear that your significant other is cheating on you with another woman, it is often seen in women that they tend to blame the other woman instead of the man.
“In an online survey almost 24,000 people participated, and 34% of the blame goes to the mistress.”

This statement goes farther than just marriage; it stretches to students in school as well.

One story shared is of a student who found out her boyfriend was cheating on her with her best friend. While frustrated with the boyfriend, she was more infuriated with her best friend because of the loyalty behind being a ‘best friend’ to someone.

While it is easy to point fingers and convince yourself that it wasn’t your significant other’s fault, we must circle back to the focus as to why we shift our attention and anger to the mistress instead of the person who committed the infidelity.

In life, we blame others to disregard the way that we are feeling in hopes to give ourselves a sense of ease. In the process, we disregard our own feelings to make us believe that the situation isn’t as bad as it truly is. “If you ever have to doubt your feelings, remind yourself that those close to you should never leave you in that state,” said Senior Alexcia Sheinman.

We need to shift our mindsets from seeing and hating “the other woman” to “the cheating man,” aka “the womanizer.”